The Year of Us


As we begin another new year, I can't help but think of all of the couples and marriages that didn't survive last year and all of the proposals that were made and accepted. Some of those endings were necessary. They never should have started. However, many of them could have been avoided. People had their priorities out of order. When you're single, it's easy to think in terms of I and me. You don't have anyone else to worry about. The problem comes when you carry that mentality over into a relationship or marriage. In marriage and relationships, you have to think about the other person AND you have to think about the relationship as a whole.

In a relationship, the spiritual, physical, mental, emotional, and financial aspects are all inclusive…….It's not just about you anymore. It's about US. WE are affected by EVERY decision made. Sadly, most couples aren't properly prepared for WE and US. The people involved still think in terms of I, ME, and YOU.

After God gave Eve to Adam, in the garden, Adam said, "This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh." According to Merriam-Webster, to cleave means "to adhere firmly and closely or loyally and unwaveringly."

A couple is supposed to be close. A married couple is supposed to be ONE. That means no more I, me, or you. It's all US and WE. Now, that doesn't mean you don't have individual identities, friends, and preferences. It means that what's next for the unit takes precedence over what's best for the individual.

You have to think about each other. Sadly, most of the couples that I watched fall apart did so because they were unable to do this. They brought their single mindset into a couple's world. YOU CAN'T HAVE A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE THINKING AND FUNCTIONING LIKE TWO SINGLE PEOPLE! You just can't do it.

This year, let's get back to really being couples. Let's get back to US. Let's plan for us. Let's think about us. Let's live for us. It's not always easy, but it's so worth it and it honors God. Our ability to understand and function as a godly couple pleases and honors out Heavenly Father. It edifies the Kingdom and sets an example for those around us.

This year is the year of us. Let's bring us back. Individually, we can be defeated, but together, with God, we are UNSTOPPABLE !