Grace is Love


Grace is defined as special, favor from God. According to Ephesians 4:7, “But to each one of us grace has been given as Christ apportioned it.” So, it’s something that we all experience at some point in our life. Did you catch that? WE ALL RECEIVE GRACE. Receiving grace is a wonderful thing and it’s always right on time. However, most of us have a hard time extending grace to those that we deal with. This is especially the case in relationships and marriage.

We tend to forget that we are flawed. We, as humans, are far from perfect. We make mistakes. We get it wrong. It’s all a part of being who we are. Our imperfections allow God to work on us, in us, and through us.

In our relationships, especially our marriages, grace is necessary. We need to have that special favor ready to extend to our spouse and our loved ones. Be honest….You expect people to extend grace to you. It’s only fair that you do the same.

Now, let’s be real. Extending grace isn’t easy in the least. I can only imagine how difficult it is for God to extend His grace to us when we act out of order on such a regular basis. We are some difficult creatures, but we have such a gracious creator. He forgives us and His love for us never changes.

Yet, we feel some type of way when the shoe is on the other foot. We may forgive you, but we won’t like you anymore. We may let it go, but we’ll never look at you the same. We may accept your apology, but we don’t want to talk to you.

Personally, grace plays a huge role in my marriage. I’m not perfect and neither is my husband. We both fall short and make mistakes. Yet, we extend grace daily. It’s not easy, but it’s possible. As I look at couples around me, grace plays a role in their relationships and marriages. I know couples who have survived infidelity, financial difficulties, breach of trust, and more. However, they are still going strong. Why? They survived because they extended grace to the offender. They understand grace and they live it.

The next time something goes wrong between you and your spouse, think about the grace God extends to you. Then think about how often you don’t deserve that grace. The same holds true for your spouse. They may not necessarily deserve it, but they need it.

Grace is just love in a different form and, whether they admit it or not, they always need and want your love, just as you need and want theirs. Remember, love conquers all and it never fails….Neither does grace.