Beef Isn’t for Other Women…It’s for Cooking

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If you’re on any form of social media, you’ve probably heard about the beef between Remy Ma and Nicki Minaj. The whole mess started back in 2007 when Nicki Minaj did a song and it was believed that, in several lines, she was taking shots at Remy Ma. Interestingly enough, Minaj never confirmed the rumor. Remy did “confront” her about it at a release party. The feud reignited when Remy Ma decided to take her own shots at Nicki while restarting her career after prison. Throw in the diss track that she released and you’re all up to date.

As I look at the situation, it never even had to get to this point. Well, how is that? I’m so glad you asked. It’s really rather easy. If the two women had talked to one another, like adults, I’m sure things wouldn’t be such a media fiasco now. Sadly, they did something that women are infamous for. They talked ABOUT each other instead of TO each other.

We seem to have this preconceived notion that other women are our competition and we can’t talk directly to them to straighten out a situation. Well, I hate to burst your bubble, but that’s a bunch of bull! We are humans, we’re bound to have issues with one another at some point and the only competition you have stares you in the mirror every morning.

Don’t tell anybody, but the only way that you can overcome the issues you have with another woman is to STOP VIEWING HER AS YOUR COMPETITION AND TALK TO HER! You have to be willing to address the situation AND the other woman head on. Now, this doesn’t mean getting your eyes rolling, your head shaking, your finger pointing, and your lips popping. This means having an intelligent conversation with another woman about what’s going on as the two of you lay the issue on the table and discuss ways to fix it. Yes, you actually have to DISCUSS things. This means you both talk and you both listen. The conversation can’t be one sided.

In life, the enemy has tons of time to wreak havoc when we refuse to talk to one another. In all of the silence, our mind plays a million different scenarios and tells us a million different things that the other person may be doing. Unfortunately, our mind is usually wrong and only adds fuel to an already dangerous fire.

As women, we have to learn how to talk to one another and build each other up instead of talking about each other and tearing each other down. Life does enough of that without our help. The women that you deal with daily aren’t your competition. They’re your sisters and this world is plenty big enough for all of us to make it. You just have to be willing to take the first step and make sure that you are not the problem, but a part of the solution. Be the bigger person and the positive woman. Your future self with thank you for it and you may even make a friend in the process. Need a little reminder? Just remember, beef is for cooking, NOT for other women.